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Making A DifferenceCreating a Culture of Honor at Home
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (Proverbs 18:21 NIV)
"Language Creates Culture Until we talk differently about our leaders, our economy, our co-workers, our family, etc things will continue to deteriorate.
Why are Families so Fragmented & Dysfunctional... The Tongue has become a weapon of "Creative Destruction"
Families are Fragmenting or Flourishing based on what’s being said about the family in and out of the house. Language has created a culture of HONOR or DISHONOR!
Every family/relationship is moving upward/downward based on exchange of words
The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug. --Mark Twain
Words of Depravation ~ Jillian
To Rob, Cheat, Deny, Withhold
You notice things important to other family members but refuse to acknowledge or celebrate because of some hurt you’re holding onto
Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them. (Proverbs 3:27 NLT)
Words of Accusation
To Blame, Condemn, Criticize, Demean... You Never... You Always...
Demeaning & criticizing others is the dishonest way of praising ourselves. Others may miss our ego but God sees it. (Ph.2:3)
Words of Defamation
To Slander, Run down, Discredit, Devalue, Disgrace
Many people look for fault in others like there's a reward for it
What you FOCUS on in your MIND will always be MAGNIFIED in your WORDS
The More You Say Something Negative... the more you Believe it
James 3:6 (The Message)
By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell.
Never miss a good chance to shut up. –Will Rogers
Learning the Language of HONOR will TRANSFORM YOUR FAMILY LIFE!
Honor will Elevate everything in our life...
Dishonor will deteriorate everything around you
Honor increases value... Dishonor decreases value.
FAMILIES THRIVE in a culture of HONOR
You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor. (James 3:18)
Ephesians 5 & 6 speaks about the first commandment, that came w/ PROMISE.
Children Honor your parents... That it may go well with you... Long, Good life.
Wives Honor your Husbands...
Employees Honor your Boss...David Honored Saul...while Saul trying to kill him
HONOR FORWARD... Sow honor w/ no strings attached
Honor w/ strings or hidden agendas is not authentic honor, it's manipulation.
LEARNING THE LANGUAGE OF HONOR
USE Words of Affirmation
To Accept, Approve, Acknowledge, NOTICE...
Insecure people like to talk about their self. WHY? Nobody ever did. AFFIRM them!
A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver. Proverbs 25:11 Amp Bible
Celebration of who you are in my life, not what you do for my life!
Words of Dedication
To Commit, Be Loyal, Faithful, Trustworthy, SACRIFICE
Proverbs 17:17 NCV
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
The Depth of your Love will determine the Extravagance of your Sacrifice!
In an era of throw away relationships... A true Friend Walks in when all others Walk Out!
Words of Elevation TO Raise, Lift up, Advance, Prefer
Ephesians 4:16 NIV
From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
You can’t Elevate someone else without Elevating Yourself at same time
Words of Reconciliation
To Resolve, To Mend, To Heal, Restore, Make Peace
2 Cor 5:19-20 Msg
God uses us to persuade men and women to drop their differences and enter into God's work of making things right between them.
There are no enduring relationships without forgiveness.
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