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      I Love My Oasis ~ Improving Your Serve


      In the world of Tennis you can win or lose the game based on how well you SERVE. No different in the body of Christ!


      I Love My Oasis because we’re all about the SERVE!!!


      The Essence of Living is Really Found in Giving, but from early childhood the idea of Taking, Getting & Keeping starts working its way into the playrooms of our nurseries with the words MINE, MINE, MINE!


      These thoughts hit close to home because we’re born self-serving creatures. From the day we’re born, our worlds revolve around ourselves. That’s where we get things like the…Toddler Property Laws


      If I like it, it’s mine... If I can take it away from you, it’s mine. 

      If I had it a minute ago, it’s mine... If I say it is mine, it’s mine. 

      If it looks like mine, it’s mine... If I say I saw it first, it’s mine. 

      If you’re having fun with it, it’s mine... If you lay it down, it’s mine.

      If it is broken, it’s yours.


      At the core of every relationship destroyed is a SELFISH PERSON!


      Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that war within you. You want things, but you do not have them... So you argue and fight. You do not get what you want, because you do not ask God. Or when you ask, you do not receive because the reason you ask is wrong. You want things so you can use them for your own pleasures. (James 4:1-3 NCV)


      SELFISHNESS Defined = You like to think about you more than anyone else.


      What causes Selfishness, and kills Your Serve?

      • The fear of losing control over others.
      • The necessity of putting your goals, priorities and needs first before everyone else, even those who are really in need.


      Selfishness is a slow flowing poison that erodes, burns, and sears the bonds of relationships.


      Top Signs That You Have a Lousy Serve…

      • You always have to be right, have the last word, and win every argument
      • You throw tantrums… a form of manipulation. Emotional outbursts designed to make people do what you want them to do; to get control of a situation.
      • You make it your business to point out imperfections in others
      • You genuinely have difficult time letting someone else have remote control
      • You pick up the last piece of chicken, take a bite out of it, hold it up and say, “Does anybody some more chicken?”
      • You’re on a date and say, “Enough talk about me…now let’s talk about what you think of me.” 
      • Your favorite picture at home is the mirror
      • The moment money comes into your hands U only think what it can do 4 U


       “You’ve observed how godless rulers throw their weight around,” Jesus said, “and when people get a little power how quickly it goes to their heads. It’s not going to be that way with you. Whoever wants to be great must become a servant. Whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave. That is what the Son of Man has done: He came to serve, not to be served—and then to give away his life in exchange for many who are held hostage.” (Mark 10:42-45 The Message)


      Haggai the prophet & the people of Jerusalem... people had just returned from Babylonian captivity... started focusing exclusively on their personal needs... Neglecting others, their relationship with God, especially God’s Temple.


       “This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies says: The people are saying, ‘The time has not yet come to rebuild the house of the Lord.’”  Then the Lord sent this message through the prophet Haggai: “Why are you living in luxurious houses while my house lies in ruins?... Look at what’s happening to you! You have planted much but harvest little. You eat but are not satisfied. You drink but are still thirsty. You put on clothes but cannot keep warm. Your wages disappear as though you were putting them in pockets filled with holes! (Haggai 1:2-9 NLT)



      At the core of this is a selfish materialistic lust.

      • Lust is denying others to benefit yourself. 
      • Love is denying yourself to benefit others.


      1 John 3:17-18 AMP

      But if anyone has this world's goods (resources for sustaining life) and sees his brother and fellow believer in need, yet closes his heart of compassion against him, how can the love of God live and remain in him? 


      It is possible to give without loving,

      but it is impossible to love without giving.


      “You haven’t really lived today until you’ve done something 

      for someone who could never repay you!” 


      The moment that you think life is about what you can get, your universe is Self-Centered and will produce these things.


      • Distorted Thinking ~ Entitlement... Skewed ideas that this world owes you something 
      • Joylessness ~ The more you get the less contented you appreciate 
      • Hidden Agendas ~ Everything you do for others has a string attached to it to ultimately benefit you.


      Heaven and Hell

      A man spoke with the Lord about Heaven and Hell. "I will show you Hell," said the Lord. And they went into a room which had a large pot of stew in the middle. The smell was delicious and around the pot sat people who were famished and desperate. All were holding spoons with very long handles which reached to the pot, but because the handles of the spoons were longer than their arms, it was impossible to get the stew into their mouths. Their suffering was terrible.

      "Now I will show you Heaven," said the Lord, and they went into an identical room. There was a similar pot of stew and the people had the same identical spoons, but they were well nourished, talking and happy. At first the man did not understand.

      "It is simple," said the Lord. "You see, they have learned to feed each other."


      It’s a medical fact that your endorphin levels go up the better you SERVE! 


      How can you IMPROVE your SERVE?

      • Get in the Game… Grab a card if you’ve not gone through the process of Serving here at the Oasis!
      • Our Life Group Tables in the Foyer are all about CONNECTING with others that always LEADS to IMPROVING your SERVE. If you say I don’t have the time you’re sliding back into Selfishness!
      • GIVING that Sustains your LIVING!


      Close with Prayer